When it comes to crushing your self-limiting beliefs, it’s easy to read and think about it. But doing those two things won’t help you let go of self-limiting beliefs. You have to be willing to take action consistently if you really want to live free. Here’s how to get started:
Identify a self-limiting belief.
Choose one self-limiting belief that’s holding you back and that you’d like to change. Once you’ve picked a self-limiting belief, grab a sheet of paper and write down all of the bad things that will happen if you challenge your belief. For example, if you’re afraid to market your services, write that down. Then write down all the bad things that will happen if you try to market your services. Maybe you fear people will laugh at you or that no one needs your services.
Challenge your fears.
Jia Jiang feared rejection, but one day, he decided that he was done. He wasn’t going to listen to his fear anymore. So he set out on a journey that he called 100 Days of Rejection. Each day, he would make a request that he was sure would be rejected. For example, he asked to borrow a hundred dollars from a stranger, dance with a waitress, and sit in a police driver’s car.
These activities might sound silly and they are. But they taught Jia how to overcome his fear of rejection. You can do the same thing and challenge your own fear. Go to a networking event and pitch your services. Reach out to some of your LinkedIn connections to see if they could use a freelancer’s services.
It’s important to do this because you’re re-training your mind about the consequences of your choices. Instead of thinking “rejection is the worst thing ever”, you’ll see that not only can you handle rejection, but that you actually have a lot to offer potential clients.
Enlist the support of a friend.
If you know someone that is struggling with their own self-limiting beliefs, whether it be a small business owner, or a solopreneur, or someone struggling with weight loss, then it might be a good idea to team up together. Each month, you both pick a belief that you’d like to let go of. Have weekly check-in calls to talk about your progress and setbacks. As you journey together, you’ll learn how to tackle your beliefs and grow your business in exciting, new ways.
Don’t think that you can overcome all of your self-limiting beliefs in a day or two. It does take time to let go of beliefs you’ve held for so long. Be patient with yourself during the process and keep a positive attitude. You can do this.
Journal Your Thoughts
1. Who could you partner with that might like to work on overcoming their own self-limiting beliefs?
2. What self-limiting belief have you chosen to work on first? What caused this self-limiting belief to develop?
3. What affirmation would counter your self-limiting belief? Write it down on several sticky notes and hang them throughout your home. Add the sentence as an “entire day” appointment to your calendar, like as you would add a birthday so that it will show up on all of your electronic devices. Schedule it for a week to begin with.
4. Schedule tiny steps to get a potential partner on board. Some people you can ask directly for help, with others you might need to reconnect first. Consider what groups are you in that have the potential for you to support each other. You may like to check out my Facebook group while you’re looking.
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